Turns out teaching children to do housework is even worse!
Not only do you need to walk them through it and stick around to supervise, but while they are learning you generally need to do it again (while they are not around so you don’t destroy their budding self confidence). I know I could leave it as is, but I do rather enjoy eating off clean plates and wearing non stinky clothing.
I’m trying to ditch the word “Chores” and call it a family “contribution”, we are all working together as a team to keep the house running smoothly.
I’ve been using motivational tools to get the girls to help, motivational tools sounds much nicer than bribes doesn’t it :grin:. On Monday morning they go up on the window sill in the kitchen where the girls can see them as a constant reminder of what they are working towards.
For Heidi it has been dolls house sets we found on super cheap special at ALDI, for Annie Hobbit figures we found on sale at the toy shop.
We started in mid January, for the first couple of weeks I just tried to get both girls back into a night time routine with their bribes, all ready for the start of school year. They were not as resistant to helping around the house during holidays. We modified what they need do once school started, I’d still like them to contribute to the household but also know they need time to be children; so it is a careful balancing act between school work, play time, after school sports.
So far it has worked well, the bribes have progressed from simply getting the girls to attempt doing their tasks, to this week doing tasks without complaining. Fingers crossed.
The girls have been helping with the laundry, packing and unpacking the dishwasher (turns out packing it is a real sensory drama for both of them so that is still a work in progress), keeping their rooms clean and other odd jobs as requested. For the last week Annie’s been swimming laps for an hour a day every day, so she only had to help with very light chores (making sure her swimming things were rinsed and ready for the next day) and carrying washing baskets outside for me as my torn arm muscle makes that hard.
It is all a work in progress but I’m hopeful one day they will need less assistance and supervision.
Do you work together as a team? What sort of motivation works in your family?